Last Thursday my little baby celebrated her 17th birthday!!! Wow....how the time has flown since she was born. We spent the day together getting everything ready for her "party" with her girlfriends.....7 crazy young ladies....they danced, laughed, posed for pictures, took a trip to the football field and track.....and swam in the pool.....I believe they stayed up until 5 a.m.......crazy....oh to be young again....lol
Friday was not the same type of day for my baby though......Her boyfriend of one year decided that they should end their relationship......(he is my best friend's son).......needless to say.....it has been a very emotional few days. I hurt because she hurts and I want to take away the pain.......she cries...I cry.....we talk......we cry......I try to explain that God has a plan for her life and to listen to what HE wants for her.....although her faith is very strong, she just wants to have her guy!!!! I pray that my words of encouragement are sinking in and that she will realize that she doesn't have to have the relationship to be happy......
I have had a very hard time balancing school and being there for her......when her friends are around I am on the computer working away.....but when she wants to talk....I have to say that I have pushed things aside to be there for her......(something I never experienced with my mother..)
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I can relate. I have an 18 year old daughter with the same boyfriend drama, etc...
Yes, they grow up so fast. I look back on their pictures and stand in amazement at how fast the time went for me. But I also enjoy the stage where we are now, having two adult (or semi-adult) kids. The relationships grow more special as the days unfold.
I feel your pain! They grow up so fast!! TOO FAST! By baby received his letter from UALR regarding his roommates and move in date in August! He was excited and I cried!!!!!! I know I have to let go and I want to but it sure is hard!!!
I can remember those kinds of parties with my girlfriends. I had "the six pack" (6 girls in our group) and we had so much fun together. We still talk and get together when we can (and we have been out of school almost 8 years). We even called ourselves "iron women" after Proverbs 27:17 "Iron sharpens iron, a frind sharpens a friend."
Mine arent't as old, but I do look at Reagan and realize that she will be 13 this year. That's not a long time, but it's almost like it was yesterday and I was bringing her home from the hospital. My youngest will be 9 in November and he already looks like he could be going into 6th grade! Acts a lot like that! If you have any advice to pass on to a mother of one who becomes a teenager this year, I will welcome it! I am not looking forward to the boyfriend issues or the 'catty' girl issues. I know I have to step back and let them grow up and deal with their pain that I know is coming, but I still want those nights when we curl up and watch a movie or read a book together.
Good job for pushing things aside to take the time with your daughter when she needs you. I hope things improve. That first love sure can hurt!
Yeah for you for putting her first. School is important, but being a mom comes first--especially now with her hurts. Remember God always rewards what is done in His name for Him. I'll pray for you two.
Fortunately for me mine are only 2,6,& 8 so I am not experiencing the boy/girl drama that will come as they get older.
However, even as young as mine are they are growing up so fast and the sad part is you don't even realize it until it's happened!!!
I sometimes get so busy with all the stuff that I have to do that I tend to neglect doing the little things with my kids & that is one thing that I am working on in my life!
I never saw myself as a mother of girls. But, God had a different plan because he gave me Tessa.
She's only 9 months old, but I look at her and already want to protect her form all the hurt I know comes with being a girl and getting your heart broken.
You're such a great mom! I hope I can be there and be strong like you're being!!
P.S. Who breaks up with their girlfriend the day after her birthday??? Ugh!!
I have 23 yr old, 16 yr old, and 14 yr old daughters that are in the midst of the boyfriend drama. It is as important to be there for them now as it was when they were babies. Maybe even more so.
I think it is great that you take the time to listen to her and be there for her. The work for the class will get done, it may be at 2 o'clock in the morning, but you cannot get back that moment when she wants to talk and needs your shoulder. On day soon she will not be at home anymore and you will wish you could sit and talk. Take advantage of it while you can.
I have almost completed all of my assignments.....yeah....things are getting a little brighter and she is getting stronger and stronger. We decided a week on the lake in Tennessee would help keep her busy and not dwelling in the past. She does realize that God is in control and what will......be will be!
You are there for her when it counts and she knows that. Your girls know that they can depend on you.
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